6 Things to Do Right After the Engagement
Congratulations- you’re engaged! You must still have butterflies in your stomach just thinking about your now-fiancé down on one knee – it’s natural, just embrace it! Once the thought of your “forever” has settled in and you have told your closest family and friends, the questions will inevitably start: “when’s the big day?”, “what’s your theme?”, “what kind of dress are you thinking of?”. These questions, though innocently asked, can often set off the newly engaged couple into a nervous frenzy, thinking they are already behind when they have only just taken the engagement ring out of the box!
Take a Moment
It’s natural to want to scream the good news from the closest vantage point, but taking some time, be it a few minutes, hours, or days to personally revel in the new reality can be worthwhile. Celebrate each other, your relationship, and your love, talk about your dreams for the future, and having this little secret will allow for some private intimate moments before everyone starts calling to congratulate you. How long you decide to wait is up to you and your fiancé, but don’t take too long either, you want to make sure that it’s you that shares the good news, not have someone accidentally find out.
Set a Date (at least Ballpark)
One of the first questions you will be asked is “when is the big day?”. Though to you it might seem like your family and friends are trying to pressure you, the truth is the motivation behind the questions is wanting to make sure to clear the date in order to be present at this important event. Having a tentative date or ballpark timeframe will also be useful for the following steps.
Set a Budget
Is there a maximum that you are willing to spend on the wedding in general? Perhaps a maximum per guest? This is something worth keeping in the back of your mind as you move forward with the wedding planning process. Some like to decide this very early on, while other couples wait to do some preliminary research before they put it together. Either way, it’s going to be one of your first serious wedding planning discussions without a doubt!
Book your Venue
Most venues, even the less popular ones, can get booked up very quickly and sometimes have a 2-3 year waiting list. If you are set on a certain venue, that might want to be one of your first phone calls post-engagement. If you still aren’t sure what’s out there, booking some tours of local spots is a good place to start. Make a list of banquet halls, ball rooms, restaurants, and even hotels. One of the best places for a wedding reception in Montreal is actually a hotel with convenient overnight stay for your out-of-town guests while still having amazing food and entertainment options. You might find that you will have to be flexible with your dates if you are looking to fit within a certain timeframe or budget.
Find a Photographer
Just like wedding venues, popular photographers can get booked up quite quickly, especially in high season! If you don’t want to resort to putting your bets on a completely inexperienced vendor, set up some appointments and meetings with photographers that come highly recommended and whose portfolio you admire. Why the meeting? Meeting them face to face ensures that you like the vibe that they give and you will feel comfortable having them tail you for the entire wedding day. If you think they will be hard to work with, it’s not worth investing your time and money into hiring them, no matter how well the photos turn out.
Choose Your Wedding Party
Your wedding party is your wedding team: your closest family members and friends who you want to be involved in the planning and execution of your big day. Stay away from dramatic people – remember that the day is about you! The wedding party members will serve as your greatest support throughout the wedding process, so make sure you choose wisely!
These 6 things don’t necessarily have to happen in this order, however, if you address them quickly, the rest of the wedding will seem manageable and the plan will be more apparent to you. You’ll also have answers to the stress-inducing questions that will inevitably be heading your way from the well-intentioned family, friends, co-workers, and even strangers. People are simply in love with love, and give them their fill without the sweat and tears after getting these six initial steps out of the way.