Comments on: Sex after C-section: The Advice that Women Do (and Don’t) Need

By: c-section recovery

c-section recovery — Mon, 12 Jul 2010 00:17:51 +0000

Sex after having a c-section isn’t something to jump into. C-sections require healing both physically, and for some women, emotionally as well. Jumping into any activity too soon can prolong healing.

The best advice is to follow the guidelines your doctor sets for you and then listen to your body.

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By: Traci Perg

Traci Perg — Sat, 16 Jan 2010 07:14:33 +0000

I would like to see articles on how to deal with the fear surrounding sex. Fear in the beginning that the pain means something is wrong, and that you’re being injured when you have sex. Fear later on that you might become pregnant and have to go through another surgery. Fear that you might not be able to get pregnant again, and if you are, that you might have a miscarriage. Fear isn’t sexy, and it’s a whole hell of a lot more debilitating to a healthy sexual life than worrying about how your vagina looks.
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By: TheFeministBreeder

TheFeministBreeder — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 22:36:27 +0000

I wanted to say that I was also disappointed to see her reduce this (on twitter) to a “well, this book isn’t for everybody.” Really? Because her response on my original post said basically the exact opposite sentiment. She claimed in her response that her statements meant to include mothers of ALL different birth experiences (okay, how?)

So to go from “well, I said those things to include everyone” to “well, if this book isn’t meant for all mothers” – that’s a pretty large, contradictory leap. I’m guessing she’s already sold so many copies that she’s not too worried about the 1/3 of women in America who’ve had cesareans – or any birth advocate/professional who’d find those statements unhelpful to women. I’m glad her book sales are doing so well she doesn’t feel the need to sell the book to mothers anymore.
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By: Reiza

Reiza — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 17:47:03 +0000

I wish more people would focus on the fact that sex after a c-section can be painful. It makes sense that a vaginal birth would create some changes, but, after my primary c-section, sex was painful for months. I didn’t expect that at all. No one ever told me that was even a possibility. Until Gina’s post at TFB, I had no idea other moms had the same experience.

I really wish there were more posts on sex after a cesarean as far as physical changes.

And I ABSOLUTELY agree that the emotional toll on both mother and partner should be examined. That was mentioned more than once on the podcast and I think people don’t realize that effect exists and how that can sabotage one’s sex life.
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By: BirthingBeautifulIdeas

BirthingBeautifulIdeas — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 16:31:43 +0000

@FamilyNature, that is EXACTLY where I became totally and utterly exasperated with the show. It was as if all c-section mamas were looking for was a way to hide the “blemish” of their scar.

@Danielle I cannot tell you how sorry I am to hear about the toll that your c-section is taking on your sex life and your sexual enjoyment. I’ve heard you talk about it on your blog before, and I think that you are brave to speak up about your experience. It just boggles my mind that so many people are under the delusion that the only way that birth can affect sex is by making a woman’s vagina more “flabby” after her babies “shoot out of her vag.” (Don’t get me started on that one…) Adhesions, emotional scars, numbness, incorrectly repaired tears and episiotomies (sadly, I could go on and on): these are important yet often ignored contributors to sexual dysfunction after pregnancy and birth!

By: BirthingBeautifulIdeas

BirthingBeautifulIdeas — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 16:24:39 +0000

@JohnCC – Thanks for the kind words. I was actually thinking last night that a post on the partner’s perspective would be a good one to include on the list–one that addresses not only the myth of the “tighter c-section vagina” (good fucking lord) but also the emotional toll that a c-section can take on a woman’s partner.

By: JohnCC

JohnCC — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 15:51:35 +0000

Chase’s c-section comments not only alienate many women, but also the husbands/partners of those women. Most of us witnessed the bloody trauma and then had to support our wives through this overwhelming challenge. She clearly lacks the ability to see outside her own little world.

I’m confident your proposed posts will actually offer real help.

By: FamilyNature

FamilyNature — Fri, 15 Jan 2010 14:52:31 +0000

It’s great this people are talking about this.

I listened to part of Mominatrix’s radio show but I eventually had to stop. It was somewhere after the woman with the world’s greatest c-section said something about buying a new outfit and some make-up being a way to help women feel better about having had a c-section.

Funny enough, by the title of the show, one might think that the show was about sex after c-section; after all, it was called “Sex After C-Section”. Turns out it was really about insulting people and dismissing their feelings.
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